When you go out of your way to try to help, sometimes you get burned. Try not to take it personally. Try not to take it out on them. Sometimes you can’t help, and trying will only make things worse. Hold forgiveness and compassion in your heart.
Closing the wrong door may not be as useful as opening the right one, but it’s a step in the right direction. At least you’ve narrowed down the doors.
When I was in school, I had a job in residence which included telling a hallway full of rowdy post-highschool boys to turn down their damn music because some people were trying to sleep and study. Not surprisingly, this annoyed the hell out of them. I once heard one of them say he couldn’t wait to be out of residence so he could play his music as loud as he wanted, whenever he wanted.
Repetition is a sure way to keep yourself safe and not learn anything new. It’s comfortable after a while, which is wonderful if being comfortable is what you need.
In many ways we are separated from each other by a yawning, insurmountable gulf. Full understanding of someone else is as impossible as a thing can be. You might hear that and just give up and collapse into nihilism.
What would you change if you were in charge?
At the end of a long and trying day, the sun still sets. Even if you can’t see it, it sets all on its own.
Randomness accounts for an awful lot of what happens. Don’t be too quick to chalk things up to anything else when randomness can explain it.
In high school science class, we had an assignment once to build a foot-long bridge out of toothpicks. Your grade was based on how much weight it was able to hold without collapsing. In this assignment I made an embarrassing mistake which taught me an important lesson.
It really helps to take a few deep lungfuls of fresh air, close your eyes and just listen to the wind in the branches. I know not everyone has the luxury of having that be easily accessible, but if you do, don’t take it for granted.