Whatever it is, you won’t get there without practice. Whatever you do, don’t let that stop you from practicing.
I wish I had a dollar for everytime someone I just met didn’t bother to listen to me, and then wondered later why I wasn’t going out of my way to fully express myself to them. If you ignore someone once, you’re going to have to work like hell to get the truth out of them ever again. You will have to work. They won’t do it for you.
“Want another?” she asked.
What have you got to lose?
Think of that feeling you have right before you fall asleep. Your eyes are closed, your mind is drifting, and you can just barely start to feel your consciousness start to slip away.
When I was a child, I was terrified of the phone. Often when I made a call, everything was fine. I’d dial, the other person would pick up, and I’d talk to them and then hang up.
Being vulnerable means saying what you really feel. It means putting it out there and doing your best to explain, even though no one may ever understand. It means sometimes you get something you didn’t want.
“Whose fault is this?” is usually not a good question to ask. Instead, try “How can we keep this from happening again?”
Sometimes, when it comes down to it, you just have to trust your feelings. Remember, that part of your brain knows things too.
Which is more effective: a lecture, or a tutor?