Patience is a virtue.
If you just ask for what you want, and can be specific about it, you’re more likely to get it. Being afraid to ask won’t get you anywhere.
Identify. Measure. Change. Measure. Repeat.
When I was a child, one of the things that stood out to me the most was when my parents would change around the furniture in a room. It didn’t happen often, maybe once every year or two, but every once in a while they’d just suddenly decide that things had been the way they were the long enough, and that it was time to change it up and try something new.
And then one day the tension just releases like a rubber band, and things are different out of nowhere. Watch out for whiplash - change in a good direction can still be hard to deal with, because all change is hard. But you’re seeing improvement, and things will get better. Remember, this is what you wanted.
What’s good for other people doesn’t come ahead of what’s good for you. Their needs aren’t more important than yours. You can take care of yourself. You can let them take care of themselves.
Time-tested ideas work better than new hotness. Things which have worked for a lot of different people solving a lot of different problems are more likely to work for you now than something someone discovered yesterday, even if that person is really smart. Even if they’re super convincing.
I read an interesting idea today. People thought that a flood of participation trophies and unfailable schoolwork would lead to millennials becoming egomaniacs, convinced that their every dumbest thought was divinely inspired and that they were destined to succeed.
In high school I took a mandatory history class. We were assigned to write a series of two-page essays. I sat down to write the first one and put some thought, work and effort into it. It was graded at 60%.
Way back in the ancient days when houses were being sold in my city without getting ten offers over the asking price and negotiation was something you actually had to think about, I made an offer on a house. But before I offered, I employed a simple negotiation trick.