Do they actually happen for a reason?
I don’t actually believe things happen for a reason - not in the cosmic sense. Maybe you disagree strongly, and that’s okay - I have no evidence that I’m right and am willing to concede the point if it’s that important to you. I bring it up now because I’ve claimed before that some things happen for a reason. What gives?
There doesn’t necessarily have to be a grand cosmic reason for something to have an impact on your life. The fact is, if there’s something you can learn from it, there’s a reason it happened. And you will find few events in life that you can’t learn anything from, if you make the effort to look. Be in the habit of looking for those reasons, and suddenly everything has meaning. Nothing is wasted. There’s a reason for all of it, even the bad stuff.