The tiny losses
There are certain things where, once you feel something, you have already lost. The other person’s objective is to make you feel a certain way, and once you do, it’s all over.
At that point, the best thing you can do is sit back, remind yourself that life is short and there’s only so much you can control, take a deep breath, and let it go. It’s your only winning move. If you do anything else, you lose again. You’ll keep losing until you calm down.