Disappointment in advance


There’s a school of thought which suggests that feeling hope for the future is like feeling disappointment in advance.

Hope is fleeting. Either it works out and you feel great for a while, but quickly need to find something else to hope for; or it doesn’t work out and you feel like crap. Instead of hoping for the future, why not do your best right now and learn to feel happy about it? For one thing, it lets you feel happy right now instead of deferring it to the future, and for another thing it’s a skill that you can use forever.

It sounds a little bleak, but there’s an appealing internal logic. Hope is a tough habit to break, but it may be worth it.