Creating feelings


Creating a feeling in yourself is as easy as pretending it’s already true.

If you want to feel like a bigwig CEO, sit behind a desk and act the way you imagine a bigwig CEO would act. Cross your feet on the desk. Wave an imaginary cigar around in broad gestures to your inferiors. Say things you imagine a bigwig CEO would say, like “We have to improve our fourth-quarter results to deliver on shareholder expectations!” or “The quality of these fancy office cigars is a travesty! Get my cigar guy on the line immediately!”

Bizzarely, if you do this for a few minutes, you will start to feel powerful and decisive. Try it if you don’t believe me. In fact, maybe go ahead and try it even if you do. It’s a good feeling.

This applies to everything. Walk around staring at the ground with your shoulders hunched and you’ll get depressed. Offer a warm smile to everyone you see and you’ll feel closer to them.

You are the things you do. It’s amazing how quickly you can change who you are and how you feel by doing things differently.